This. I agree so much.
See the DIFFERENCE between the selfless Damon Salvatore and the opportunist Stefan Salvatore? The 3x19 trip was not planned by Damon, he did not have the idea of Elena going with him, and he definitely DID NOT start the kiss, as we’ve all seen. It was all STEFAN’s idea (minus the kiss
lol, that was just horny Elena desperately wanting to make out with Damon). He pretended to “help” Elena with her decision by allowing her to go on a dangerous trip with Damon, where he was 100% sure that he was going to do something reckless to screw things up with Elena.
Damon was just taken by surprise, fact well shown by his reaction of Elena telling him her real intentions. And he does NOT try to change her mind, he is tired of showing her that he can be better, and he is not trying to influence her decision at all. He lets her figure it out by herself, she lets her realize what she actually feels. This is why Damon was, and will always be the right choice. /rant over